The gentle grief coach

July 17, 2015 turned my life upside down and it was changed forever. I remember laying on the bed in Puerto Rico, next to my mom's hospice bed, texting my best friend to pray for my mom to receive peace because I knew my mom was suffering. Immediately I looked up and focused on my mom's chest, and noticed that she wasn't breathing. My brother was next to me and I said, "Samito, I think she's gone."

 

Mami left behind a huge legacy of love, service, humility and joy. She was a blessing and inspiration to me. I was very fortunate to have a loving mother by my side for 28 years. I thought I would be prepared, since my mom was diagnosed back in 2013, but nothing prepares you for the pain that you endure with loss.  As a trained pastor and social worker, I couldn't understand the deep sorrow and pain that came with grief. I thought I would be able to handle it, but reality hit me with its hardest blow. I quickly realized that grief wasn't going anywhere and was here to stay. 

 

Since then, it has been my personal goal to understand my grief, emotions, and what was happening to me. I binged, I starved, I flirted heavily on dating apps. Grubhub was my best friend. I couldn't get out of bed. I was a numb for about six years. Nothing worked.

 

I started my healing journey in 2018, when I decided to move to California. I listened to podcasts, dove into TikTok University, read books, and genuinely enjoyed learning about grief. Now, grief has become a part of me. In my learning journey, I realized that you don't need to push out joy nor happy moments, but learn how to live in the tension of both. I have an abundant joyful life and I want to help you have one, too!  

 

I experienced that grieving alone wasn’t fun which is why I created this space for us to grieve together. In our journey together, I will help you navigate life after loss. I will teach you how to have joy again. As your coach, I am committed to being compassionate and gentle, while providing you with tools for inspiring transformation. ​​

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I have worked successfully as a Christian Pastor for the Seventh-day Adventist Church for nine years before transitioning into Healthcare Chaplaincy as Director of Spiritual Care. I currently work as an administrator and clinical chaplain overseeing 700 employees and over 60,000 patients.  I have a Master in Divinity, Master in Social Work, four accredited CPE units in Clinical Chaplaincy, a Grief Coaching certification, and a Death Doula Certification. With my background and expertise, I want to help you thrive and live the life you always wanted! 

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Let’s connect! I want to hear your story! We got this!